Single Mothers

Feminists – I dislike them.

Let’s talk about single mothers, shall we. Single parenting is bad for kids. The study below [1] is one of the thousands (it is the first one I found after quick google-fu) that shows poorer academic achievement for divorced kids. A nice twist is study [2] that specifically points out that single parenting hurts boys stronger than girls in terms of cognitive development. Why? Because boys are more sensitive to parental input. Single parents, mostly mothers, do not have enough time for proper parental input which disproportionally hurts boys. No time for boys to be boys. We’ll start screwing you as soon as you are out. Anyway, negative effects: earlier pregnancy, depression, drugs, crime, suicide are all there as well.

Where am I going with it? Anjya Eriud pointed out here:  that these days saying “I’m a single mother” is like some medal of honor. Forget that being a single mother is no longer a matter of circumstances but a matter of choice. Forget that most time the choice is usually selfish and made by the mother who keeps the kid(s)  who has full control of whether and when the father (aka non-custodial parent) can see the kid(s) and who cares about it more than kids’ well-being. Forget that because it was said thousand times.

Here is what I’m curious about. After “I’m a single mother” it often goes that “and my kids are doing just great” (or variation thereof). What I do not understand is Where are ALL those single mothers who screw their own kids? They are the majority but I never heard anyone saying: “I should not have divorced the kid’s father. It really disadvantaged my kids.” Never. It’s like every single’s mother kid is blessed by being single’s mother kid.

[1] Potter, D. (2010), Psychosocial Well-Being and the Relationship Between Divorce and Children’s Academic Achievement. Journal of Marriage and Family, 72: 933–946.
[2] Bertrand, Marianne, and Jessica Pan. 2013. “The Trouble with Boys: Social Influences and the Gender Gap in Disruptive Behavior.” American Economic Journal: Applied Economics, 5(1): 32-64.


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