Do you believe in Equality? Then you are a feminist

Feminists – I do not like them.

This website: http://areyouafeminist.com/ has a  test on whether you are a feminist or not. It takes just two questions. Do you think all human beings are equal? Do you think women are human beings? You answer yes to both of them and you are deemed feminist-y enough.

I think everyone already said lots of things about “feminism is about equality and if you believe in equality you are a feminist”. My personal favorite is Victor Zen who said something like (not a quotation) “I don’t understand why feminism decided that it can monopolize the concept of equality. I believe in equality but let me choose for myself what movement represents me”.

Anyway to the point. Here is my test (I am not German, been there a couple of times):

1) Do you admire German culture, German’s writers, composers, philosophers?  Yes/No
2) Do you wish prosperity to German people? Yes/No

If you answered “Yes” to both questions then congratulations – you are Nazi.

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Single Mothers

Feminists – I dislike them.

Let’s talk about single mothers, shall we. Single parenting is bad for kids. The study below [1] is one of the thousands (it is the first one I found after quick google-fu) that shows poorer academic achievement for divorced kids. A nice twist is study [2] that specifically points out that single parenting hurts boys stronger than girls in terms of cognitive development. Why? Because boys are more sensitive to parental input. Single parents, mostly mothers, do not have enough time for proper parental input which disproportionally hurts boys. No time for boys to be boys. We’ll start screwing you as soon as you are out. Anyway, negative effects: earlier pregnancy, depression, drugs, crime, suicide are all there as well.

Where am I going with it? Anjya Eriud pointed out here: http://mensrightsarehumanrights.wordpress.com/2014/01/19/c-u-n-ts/  that these days saying “I’m a single mother” is like some medal of honor. Forget that being a single mother is no longer a matter of circumstances but a matter of choice. Forget that most time the choice is usually selfish and made by the mother who keeps the kid(s)  who has full control of whether and when the father (aka non-custodial parent) can see the kid(s) and who cares about it more than kids’ well-being. Forget that because it was said thousand times.

Here is what I’m curious about. After “I’m a single mother” it often goes that “and my kids are doing just great” (or variation thereof). What I do not understand is Where are ALL those single mothers who screw their own kids? They are the majority but I never heard anyone saying: “I should not have divorced the kid’s father. It really disadvantaged my kids.” Never. It’s like every single’s mother kid is blessed by being single’s mother kid.

[1] Potter, D. (2010), Psychosocial Well-Being and the Relationship Between Divorce and Children’s Academic Achievement. Journal of Marriage and Family, 72: 933–946.
[2] Bertrand, Marianne, and Jessica Pan. 2013. “The Trouble with Boys: Social Influences and the Gender Gap in Disruptive Behavior.” American Economic Journal: Applied Economics, 5(1): 32-64.

Evolution of Man’s Image from a Japanese book to an American movie.

Feminist – I don’t like them.

Probably everyone watched a movie “The Ring”. When I first watched it, my bed was right next to TV and that was scary. What is that point that I’m making? I liked it so much that I read the book and watched the original, Japanese movie which is called, easily enough, Ringu.

And here is what you have: in the book the two main characters are actually two men, say A and B. They are friends and work together on saving A’s family.

Then: a Japanese movie. A becomes a woman and B becomes her ex-husband. No problem here, because, Nanako Matsushima who played A is SO pretty! Ok, there was a tiny problem: in the book A had to lift baskets of water from the well, while B went down to the well and was filling those baskets with water. In a book A was a man so it does not matter. In the movie it seems weird that A is doing physically difficult work but whatever. Let’s focus on B, ladies and gentlemen:  B in a Japanese movie is a very successful professor ata University with a young and pretty girlfriend. It is a hint from B at the very end of the movie that helps A to finally figure out the solution.

Then we have an American movie. What happens to B? He is still A’s ex but he is a COMPLETE loser, unemployed and, well, basically, A does everything while “projecting intelligence, determination and resourcefulness that carry the movie nicely” (Wiki). B, however, becomes almost tangential to the story.

How difficult was it to just leave B as he was? A resourceful man and a father trying to save his own kid and contributing as much as the mother. Nope. Men can only be losers.

My first post

Feminists, I have to make the word “feminists” to be the first word in my first post on my first blog. So here, feminists – I don’t like them.

Now to the point. The topic of my first post is why the default state is that the mother gets kids after the divorce. Because they get pregnant and deliver the baby? Nonsense! It was not my choice that I cannot get pregnant, it is not women’s choice that they can. So why should they be rewarded for something and I should be punished for something that was just a blind chance. We do not punish those who are born blind. If anything we help them to overcome limitations that come with this condition. So that they can read, browse Internet and may be one day they will be able to drive cars. And yet with children somehow nobody bother to remove this inherent asymmetry between men and women and instead they try to broaden the gap.

So what’s going on? Well, I think it’s a disposable men thing and I base it on absolutely nothing. But hear me out. 100 years ago what are the chances that a man would live long enough until the kids grow up? No clue (remember I base it on absolutely nothing) but women’s chances were much higher and, importantly, chances that men will not live long enough to see their children grow were substantially high. So it is common sense then that kids should go to women who will not get drafted and killed in the battle, who will not die because of mine accidents, who will live long enough until kids grow up.

It changed. I cannot get pregnant, deliver kids or breast-feed. But I, statistical version of me at least, will certainly live long enough to take care of the kids. So Kate Winslet and others can and should f–k themselves on a mountain.